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To all, some of us who are married with children notice a change in our wives' libido in our journey toward happiness. I have been in the place of which you all speak, even you sizemic, but less(much less). Anyway, I speculate that our wives, being without kids, focused mostly on themselves and us prior to having kids(in the traditional order of relationship-kids). I also believe that once kids came along, the repressed childhood fantasies of being a good mom and wife encompassed the forefront of their minds. Well, when she had, already played out her fantasy role of wife (unless she abstained) it was difficult to balance the new role of mom, which resulted in all the attention swaying towards the child(ren) instead of herself and ultimately you. She then may have lost herself in her chosen obligation and lost a sense of selfworth. Her boobs, belly, hips, hormones, and other womanly things, have changed and she notices that she doesn't have that same libido also and she blames herself and not the fact that she had a beautiful yet parasitic human being to come out of her body. Our wives have, or had, to find themselves again but with our help. If you haven't already, started showing her how much you appreciate, admire, love what she's doing with whatever she does without expecting anything in return.  It's hard (pun intended) to do something nice for her and not expect a sexual response but most moms (assumption) get turned on when you ignore them sexually(don't be stupid and turn it down though that's not what I'm saying lol). Weird I know, but try it if you're up for the challenge. It may take time but you will start noticing them noticing you. Some examples would be to, as they are doing something really important or busy, just rub 'em on the shoulder or pat 'em on the tush while giving them a kiss on their head, then walk away and do something they asked you to do or something unexpected.  Tell them how much you love them or complement them more often without physical contact. They assume you have an ulterior motive which is true but they don't HAVE to know that? Also, date her again but without sexual intentions. Not just go out to eat or movie. Try something different.  It's frustratingly difficult but you did something to get her why not do something to keep the spice. I only say these things because they worked for me even though I still don't get it as much as I'd like, but it's better quality, more passion. Eventually, these unpredictable things will become a habit (irony. Also, try finding some other hobbies for yourself, maybe she just doesn't want to hear about sex all the time also? Just some thoughts. Peace!
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kcchief
Once every week or as along as once in two weeks.
If not I become a prick and start bitching. She only ever
Comes on to me if she had a lot of drinks, it sucks.that's why
I am considering enlargment. It also didn't help that she said I
Was the smallest she had.
Kcchief
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Skeptical One
kcchief wrote:
she said I Was the smallest she had. Kcchief


Tell her to fuck off.  You don't deserve having that kind of info (accurate or not) revealed to you, it's just not necessary.



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lookingforanswers
I'm looking forward to actually being able to have sex again.

That seems to be very common with a lot of women now saying crap like that. Then there is us trying to feel better about ourselves, just like they try and feel better about themsevels with breast enlargement. Except when we try and do it, we are called vain and they say it's wrong. I can't really help the fact that I didn't have enough growth hormone during puberty, which is a lot of my size issue, at least that's what one doctor told me.
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PMMAallTHEway
Ok guys. I know this is gonna sound weird, obsessive, surely OCD-ish but about sept 2009 I began noting in excel every single time my wife and I had sex. I was curious like this forum suggest on just how many times we did it. I also noted major events to see how they affected the pattern. Medicine changes as well.

We are both 39 and no kids together. My son is 14 and hers are 18/21

Here's the data. Love to. Hear thoughts or questions....


                                       
        # days                         Avg/Week         Avg/Day         % Days w/Sex
Total 2009         12                         (4 months data only…)         0.8         0.1         10.0%
Total 2010         34                         (Full year data)         0.7         0.1         9.3%
Total 2011         78                         (Full year data) .5         0.2         21.4%
Total 2012         69                         (Year to Date)         1.3         0.2         18.9%
Reading PhalloBoards Made My Penis Bigger and I Can Prove It!!!

Starting (Pre Oct 2011)
BPEL 5 3/8""
MSEG 4 1/2"

(Dec 2012)
BPEL 6 1/4"
MSEG 5 3/8"

Current (3/2013 - lig cut and 3 rnds PMMA)
BPEL 6 1/2"
MSEG 5 1/2"
FYI base girth is still 6"
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PMMAallTHEway
Could not get formatting to stay correct when posting. Sry
Reading PhalloBoards Made My Penis Bigger and I Can Prove It!!!

Starting (Pre Oct 2011)
BPEL 5 3/8""
MSEG 4 1/2"

(Dec 2012)
BPEL 6 1/4"
MSEG 5 3/8"

Current (3/2013 - lig cut and 3 rnds PMMA)
BPEL 6 1/2"
MSEG 5 1/2"
FYI base girth is still 6"
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Mustang2020
So if I understand it correctly, you had about seven times more sex after four years. That is apposite of what normally happens in most marriages where sex frequency declines over the years. Did PMMA have anything to do with it?

As a single guy who has no girlfriend but have girls with benefits, I guesstimate that I have sex about 5 times a week. If I am seeing two girls in one week, then it goes up to about 8-9 times a week. BUT, there are some weeks when I travel and of course sex drops to zero.

I can tell you for sure, and this is my own experience, that after PMMA my sex frequency has gone up many times. I know it is physical and also psychological too.
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PMMAallTHEway
PMMA Did help but honestly life just kept throwing curveballs at us. At me. Kinda why I decided to track this. I did not include the notes about med changes and work/school issues. Kids moving out. Moving in. Just so many variables. For example: We had sex every single day from Nov 20th when her classes ended for break until Dec 1st when she started back up and took a new job at work. While I'm still Very Ready, she has not let me touch her since. So I have no answers really. Just a lot of data...lol
Reading PhalloBoards Made My Penis Bigger and I Can Prove It!!!

Starting (Pre Oct 2011)
BPEL 5 3/8""
MSEG 4 1/2"

(Dec 2012)
BPEL 6 1/4"
MSEG 5 3/8"

Current (3/2013 - lig cut and 3 rnds PMMA)
BPEL 6 1/2"
MSEG 5 1/2"
FYI base girth is still 6"
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Mustang2020
PMMAallTHEway wrote:
PMMA Did help but honestly life just kept throwing curveballs at us. At me. Kinda why I decided to track this. I did not include the notes about med changes and work/school issues. Kids moving out. Moving in. Just so many variables. For example: We had sex every single day from Nov 20th when her classes ended for break until Dec 1st when she started back up and took a new job at work. While I'm still Very Ready, she has not let me touch her since. So I have no answers really. Just a lot of data...lol


Ok, so you had sex about 10 times in 10 days and NO sex for about 20 days. So, in one month you had sex 10 times, that's about once every three days....yes?
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The elist Silicone Implant is a failure by design, a disaster by Surgeon and a Let Down by the Medical board!, in my Unmedical, Unprofessional Opinion 😉
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PMMAallTHEway
That is correct. Although the long delays in between make the reality worse than the averages look.
Reading PhalloBoards Made My Penis Bigger and I Can Prove It!!!

Starting (Pre Oct 2011)
BPEL 5 3/8""
MSEG 4 1/2"

(Dec 2012)
BPEL 6 1/4"
MSEG 5 3/8"

Current (3/2013 - lig cut and 3 rnds PMMA)
BPEL 6 1/2"
MSEG 5 1/2"
FYI base girth is still 6"
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Bonsi
Hey all I’m brand new to the site although I’ve lurked for years.
I use an app on my phone to track sex with my wife and know exactly how much sex we have on average 2.2 times this is penetration only. There are other activities that result in orgasm also so looking at complete stats it’s 3.91 activities a week.

I’m a lucky guy with wife of ten years and two kids. These stats are broken down to yearly averages. I’ve been tracking for 2 years now. Obviously as newlyweds activities were much more frequent with probably at least 7 activities a week and more many weeks.

I’m 35 wife is 38

Oh the app is called nice
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Bonsi
Whoops, didn’t realize how old this was.
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briceb
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Bonsi
Well ok, then in that same vain...I’m wondering if I get a PE will she crave it more? I used a sheath a few nights ago and she had a 9 orgasm (we rank them 1-10) since the ranking system she hasn’t had a 9 before, and she was making noises all throughout instead of just near the end. She has previously hated my sheath the other three times I used it, she did cum but was uncomfortable most of the time or right after her orgasm. But last time she was loving it after the first minute of discomfort. I believe at that time the sheath made me 6” around and an extra 1 1/2” longer. She loved the deep penetration.

I loved the look in her eyes of being full and that she was stimulated from rear entry positions (she is very rarely stimulated in doggy or other rear entry, as I “don’t hit her spots”). I want to be able to hit her spots from behind. I don’t think when I enter her it really has an impact so to speak. With work I can certainly make her cum but with the sheath it definitely has a physical impact on her imeadiately. I want that impact

On the other hand I mentioned having the procedure done a few months back and she flipped out. Has no issues with me, ect. She’s not a very emotional person so her strong response only made me suspicious. She asked why I thought I wasn’t big enough and if I was bigger it would hurt. And I said well only you could know that. She inquired at that. I then asked “ Have you ever been with someone that was to big ah hurt you?” That was the icing on the cake of this already emotional fight, “NO,OFF LIMITS ABUSOLUTLEY NOT!” This was not an answer to the question but an objection to it. Things tapered off from there but she was unhappy.

She has said in the past “You’re long enough” but has never said you’re thick enough. In fact I had drawn out of her in a previous conversation “you’ve felt thin a few times but not lately”. So ultimately between what’s unsaid and also said or just plain experienced in the sheets I think we could find benefit from my enhancing me. But she is adement that she does not want me to peruse this. However I was equally adamant about her boob job, even after she had convinced me otherwise. But in the end we both love her boobs.
Her claim is her boobs don’t go inside my body.

I want best for myself and her in every aspect of life. But being sex obsessed as I am, especially in this area.

She hasn’t hurt my feelings in anyway but this is something I want for me, and us.

Anybody on the other side of this, oh yeah and did it lead to more sex?
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lakingsfan35
I've been using a few different tracking apps for a similar reason. My wife takes meds for her medical issues. Currently I use my tracker. I can put in custom fields and get detailed info.

I can say even with medical changes we can track how it effects and affects her in many ways and reasons other than just sex. I can say that on average in the last 68 months we have had sex or sexual contact ( blow jobs, hand jobs, sex.....) 329 times that works to an average of about 4.83 times a month.


It sometimes comes in spurts of 7 times in one week then 3 weeks without any contact. I notate med changes, sleep patterns and all. It is very helpful app that we rely on for raw data.

As many of you know my wife was inpatient treatment when I first came to PB. During that tracking time she was in treatment for a total of 23 of those months, so I really could make a valid arguement and say it was an average of 7.3 times a month.

Prior to the last 6.5 years we were in a bad place in our marriage for a few years. About 10 years ago her mother passed,about a year later her father passed away. She went into a deep depression, her meds changed, we had recently moved, life was in session and then blam went 13 months with zero sex.

I had moved into a different room in our house and things looked bleak. Once she changed meds and things were crazy in her head that's when the inpatient treatment center trips started. We spent our whole retirement savings for her medical treatment. Things are good now, she is healthier, our sex life is better and we are both happy. Lots of therapy and counselling.

So tracking sex feels weird at times but for us it helps identify issues in meds and depression related issues.
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